I am still mostly unplugged (would love to figure out what word to use). So far I have stopped watching almost all of my shows, I actually turned off the ringtone on my phone for my FB updates so now I actually only check FB a few times a day.
I am still amazed at how refreshing this all is. I have friends that did this years ago and told me how rewarding it would be but I was not so sold or ready to give up my shows or FB.
I am still a fan of FB it is a great way to be in touch with my friends and family but now I have a life outside of FB.
My hubby and I have actually found other things to do instead of watching hours of television every week. Now when we do watch tv or a movie we enjoy it. It no longer feels like a dreaded homework assignment. Yes that is what it was starting to feel like. I was a clock watcher because I had to get everything done so I could cram in my shows. No wonder I wasn't sleeping very well.
I am enjoying be able to sit down and read a book or just flip through the channels to find a fluff show if I choose.
Looking forward to where this path will continue taking me.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Old friends and good times
I went out Saturday night with friends old and new. What a blast it was to get caught up each other's lives it was like it hadn't been 20 years since we were all together.
The one guy that showed up was the class bully as my memory had led me to believe all this time but as the night went on and stories were shared it was revealed that he was not so bad after all so all is forgiven.
Then my girl Kit Kat her hubby and brother showed up. Well I forgot what a crush I used to have on her brother and I am happily married and would never cheat but damn that boy is still hot. Well as alchol began to pour stories began to be told and one particular story that was shared I had figured I would never have to relive that story or moment again. My girl was shocked that after all these years she had no idea that her cousin and I had hooked up in high school I had actually totally forgotten as well but that skeleton is now out of my closet.
As I stood listening and looking around the table I was amazed at how many of these people were just as gorgeous/sexy or even better then they were in grade/high school.
And yet I don't recall there ever being a popular group or jealousy amongst us girls. So I have realized that I was blessed to have known these people and it would be great if we all keep in touch.
The one guy that showed up was the class bully as my memory had led me to believe all this time but as the night went on and stories were shared it was revealed that he was not so bad after all so all is forgiven.
Then my girl Kit Kat her hubby and brother showed up. Well I forgot what a crush I used to have on her brother and I am happily married and would never cheat but damn that boy is still hot. Well as alchol began to pour stories began to be told and one particular story that was shared I had figured I would never have to relive that story or moment again. My girl was shocked that after all these years she had no idea that her cousin and I had hooked up in high school I had actually totally forgotten as well but that skeleton is now out of my closet.
As I stood listening and looking around the table I was amazed at how many of these people were just as gorgeous/sexy or even better then they were in grade/high school.
And yet I don't recall there ever being a popular group or jealousy amongst us girls. So I have realized that I was blessed to have known these people and it would be great if we all keep in touch.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Heart breaks and heals
I have been helping a very close friend for the last little while deal with her marriage issues and I am still surprised at all the things I am finding out about the life she has been living. I am so glad she has found the strength to finally stand her ground and demand love and respect.
I do hope that it is not too late for them to work things out but I am finding it harder and harder to believe that at the end of this road they are going down that they will be together. I watched her completley crumble and also her oldest child.
It breaks my heart to watch a family fall apart like this and not to see any good coming from it. I don't agree with just throwing your marriage away but I do believe that there are times when it is the best solution and I am starting to think that this is the best for them.
I was shocked to find out that out of the people that know everything there are only two of us supporting her and everyone else figures she should just put on a happy face and enjoy the comfortable life she has. Well I am sorry but money and a nice house does not replace love, respect and partnership.
Last time I checked it is almost impossible to have a good marriage without love, respect and partnership. I have to come to realize how truly blessed I really am in my life. Yeah my hubby drives me crazy but I know that he loves and respects me. I have also realized that I so made the right choice by leaving my older boys father all those years ago.
I am so glad that I have my blog to be able to vent and put this stuff out there. Writing is such a good therapy for me right now dealing with all of this. You see I tend to hurt when my friends hurt and it is not healthy to keep everything in.
I do hope that it is not too late for them to work things out but I am finding it harder and harder to believe that at the end of this road they are going down that they will be together. I watched her completley crumble and also her oldest child.
It breaks my heart to watch a family fall apart like this and not to see any good coming from it. I don't agree with just throwing your marriage away but I do believe that there are times when it is the best solution and I am starting to think that this is the best for them.
I was shocked to find out that out of the people that know everything there are only two of us supporting her and everyone else figures she should just put on a happy face and enjoy the comfortable life she has. Well I am sorry but money and a nice house does not replace love, respect and partnership.
Last time I checked it is almost impossible to have a good marriage without love, respect and partnership. I have to come to realize how truly blessed I really am in my life. Yeah my hubby drives me crazy but I know that he loves and respects me. I have also realized that I so made the right choice by leaving my older boys father all those years ago.
I am so glad that I have my blog to be able to vent and put this stuff out there. Writing is such a good therapy for me right now dealing with all of this. You see I tend to hurt when my friends hurt and it is not healthy to keep everything in.
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Unplugged for 2011 and maybe life
Not sure where this vision of unplugged will take me but I have decided that having my phone attached to my hip 24/7 is crazy. Yes I do need to leave it on all the time because it is the number my kids and some friends call me on but I do not need to answer every text or FB update when they come in. When I have company it will be refreshing to only have to answer my phone or texts when it is required.
I have decided to cut my tv time down to almost zero shows. My hubby has been busy lately and since we watch all of our shows together I had all last week to do other things and I loved it and didn't even miss my shows.
I will have more time for my blog, reading and actually watching a movie that I got for Christmas.
So I guess unplugged may not be the right word but it is the best I could come up with. We will see where this journey takes me.
I have decided to cut my tv time down to almost zero shows. My hubby has been busy lately and since we watch all of our shows together I had all last week to do other things and I loved it and didn't even miss my shows.
I will have more time for my blog, reading and actually watching a movie that I got for Christmas.
So I guess unplugged may not be the right word but it is the best I could come up with. We will see where this journey takes me.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Life is a rollercoaster
Wow my life has been on a rollercoaster ride lately some good, some strange and some I'm not so sure about.
First I found out that one of my very dear friends is going through a horrible time in her marriage and she is sharing with me and her hubby is sharing with my hubby but of course my hubby and I can't share with each other. I'm not sure where this path will take them or us but I'm always amazed at how quick someone's world can be turned upside down.
Second my middle child announces that he is taking serious steps to join the military. I am all for him doing this but this has come out of nowhere as far as I can tell but this will be a very interesting path to walk with him regardless of whether he decides to join or not.
My BFF and I have seemed to find some common ground again and although things are very different they are good and I am just learning to embrace the change and grow with it.
I have been diagnosed with B12 Deficiency which is manageable but a pain to deal with. I hate schedules and routines but will have to learn to embrace these things to learn to cope with this diagnosis.
My hubby and I who do not normally communicate very well have all of a sudden learned how to navigate the world of communicating face to face and not just via E-Mail when we are having an argument.
I am sure there has been more but this pretty much brings me up to date. The best news is that I now have my own computer so I should be able to blog more often.
First I found out that one of my very dear friends is going through a horrible time in her marriage and she is sharing with me and her hubby is sharing with my hubby but of course my hubby and I can't share with each other. I'm not sure where this path will take them or us but I'm always amazed at how quick someone's world can be turned upside down.
Second my middle child announces that he is taking serious steps to join the military. I am all for him doing this but this has come out of nowhere as far as I can tell but this will be a very interesting path to walk with him regardless of whether he decides to join or not.
My BFF and I have seemed to find some common ground again and although things are very different they are good and I am just learning to embrace the change and grow with it.
I have been diagnosed with B12 Deficiency which is manageable but a pain to deal with. I hate schedules and routines but will have to learn to embrace these things to learn to cope with this diagnosis.
My hubby and I who do not normally communicate very well have all of a sudden learned how to navigate the world of communicating face to face and not just via E-Mail when we are having an argument.
I am sure there has been more but this pretty much brings me up to date. The best news is that I now have my own computer so I should be able to blog more often.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Battle on the homefront
Well Christmas went off without a hitch which in this house is a miracle. Then New Year's eve also went amazingly well so I got a little comfortable with the no drama and no one fighting in my house well last night it all started again.
My husband made an offhanded comment that to the average person would not be a big deal but to my lovely 19 year old it somehow meant that after six months of working his butt off to show how much he has done it is still not good enough. I figured that since he didn't storm out last night he might be open to an apology and discussion from my hubby but alas that is not the case. They are now both refusing to talk to the other and my hubby has gone so far as he does not want me to drive our son anywhere and does not want me to either. He wants me to pick his side.
This will blow over eventually as it always does but in two weeks we are all supposed to go to Monster Trucks so that should be interesting and this weekend the two of them are supposed to go and get tattoos together.
I feel like sticking them in a locked room and the one that emerges is the winner I figure they will either kill each other or learn to talk. This does not make an easy house. We always have to balance everything just perfectly in this house since I have three very emotionally volatile people as once this balance is upset it normally becomes a free forall. Hopefully not this time.
My oldest is mad at me because I had the odacity to make plans tonight and not check with him so now he does not have a vehichle. This is partly my fault because I do forget as he gets older that he still needs routine and nothing to change and for the last two weeks he has had my car at his whim.
Hopefully when everyone gets home tonight peace will find a way to restore itself. Of course I am like a mama bear when it comes to my children so that does not bode well for my hubby.
My husband made an offhanded comment that to the average person would not be a big deal but to my lovely 19 year old it somehow meant that after six months of working his butt off to show how much he has done it is still not good enough. I figured that since he didn't storm out last night he might be open to an apology and discussion from my hubby but alas that is not the case. They are now both refusing to talk to the other and my hubby has gone so far as he does not want me to drive our son anywhere and does not want me to either. He wants me to pick his side.
This will blow over eventually as it always does but in two weeks we are all supposed to go to Monster Trucks so that should be interesting and this weekend the two of them are supposed to go and get tattoos together.
I feel like sticking them in a locked room and the one that emerges is the winner I figure they will either kill each other or learn to talk. This does not make an easy house. We always have to balance everything just perfectly in this house since I have three very emotionally volatile people as once this balance is upset it normally becomes a free forall. Hopefully not this time.
My oldest is mad at me because I had the odacity to make plans tonight and not check with him so now he does not have a vehichle. This is partly my fault because I do forget as he gets older that he still needs routine and nothing to change and for the last two weeks he has had my car at his whim.
Hopefully when everyone gets home tonight peace will find a way to restore itself. Of course I am like a mama bear when it comes to my children so that does not bode well for my hubby.
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