Many hats one day

Today I learned what it meant to be many things. This is one of those days where life lessons were taught, given and learned. What an amazing day it was.

I was a superhero to my youngest child because I was able to find a swimsuit so we could go swimming.

I was a cool aunt because I went when my girlfriends daughter called. All she wanted was someone to watch her favourite show with her and her mom was sick. I stayed and watched her show with her. I was sure to tell her before I left that I was glad she called and that this is what family and friends do. This was a neat experience for me because I am an Aunt by choice not blood.

I learned that being a heart sister means that no matter who else is in your life they are the ones that will be there at your brightest and darkest hour. I also learned that when I choose not to call in my darkest hour feelings can be hurt but forgivness is also quick to be given.

I got to be a good wife to my hubby tonight when I told our oldest that he would have to find a ride for his girlfriend because my hubby was too sick to go out. My hubby would've gone had I asked but he really appreciated not having to go.

I also learned what it means to be a true cousin. This is the most interesting to me. My cousin Tasha is getting married and is being given some grief over the fact that kids are not invited. I for one totally agree with her. We have a cousin who has said he will not be at the wedding because his youngest will be too little to be left with a sitter. Her wedding is in August. This weekend on FB we find out that he left his little one for the night with a sitter so him and his wife could go out. Tasha was very hurt over this and I totally get where she is coming from. So I told her I have her back sent her a virtual hug and him a virtual kick in the butt (we live too far from each other for them to be real). The interesting part is the cousin I gave the kick in the butt to used to have no faults in my eyes but I am learing that he is not perfect and that Tasha needs all the love and support she can get.

What a crazy but educational day. These are lessons I will keep and pass on.

Amazing new artist

I listened to this great CD last night(Little Smile). This woman is amazing her lyrics are very simple and so true for girls/women of all ages.

The best part is she is Canadian and so down to earth.

I have had the privlege of seeing her perform and she is so powerful.

http://jodiking.com/video.php

Take the time to check out this video it is so powerful.

Living with mental illness

I was equipped when I got married or so I thought. We took the marriage classes and they talked but all the relevant topics again so I thought. What they don't ask is do either of you have a mental illness (mild or not). This should be a required question and if the answer is yes they should give you coping skills.

You see I live with a great man when his moods are balanced. When his moods are not balanced things are not quite so great. He can hold it together at work and with our youngest but the rest of us are not spared. Now he doesn't get violent or nasty but he gets real quiet, very impatient and the littlest comment can start him on a tirade about how unfair his life is.

I have been with him for 13 years so I have learned how to handle the swings but there are weeks like this week that I just want to throw in the towel and have the husband that doesn't have to battle this monster but then I remember all the good things and remember that this is just a small piece of who he is.

It is very tiring emotionally and physically. I have learned to just let things slide when he is on a downswing but there are times that I think this is not fair I can't share the good or bad with him during this period. I am so glad that I have this blog so I can vent and it so helps with coping.

I am glad that he is my husband and I know we have a rock solid marriage but there are days that make it hard because mental illness is not talked about so there is nowhere to turn to get support when needed.

Thanks for letting me vent and put things in perspective