Five years ago for no reason given my cousin and his wife disowned myself, husband and children. Ours was always a relationship of him trying to have power and pulling many a guilt trip which I might add did not work. Although he is family and I do love him I must admit I have not missed the battles and other antics.
Today his mother asked me to please come to his 60th birthday. You see it breaks her heart that we no longer speak so she has to have two christmas', two thanksgivings', two birthdays. Well you get the point. I felt horrible a few years ago that he would not show for her birthday. You see I have tried to mend these fences more than once.
I am not sure what is bothering me more the fact that I don't miss him or our relationship or the fact that I am going against all I believe in by going to this party for him. I know it would break my aunt's heart if I do not at least keep trying but I figure when does he have to try. There will never be an explanation given and I also do not think that is fair I am supposed to just move on and start fresh.
Ethan has no idea who this man or his family is and my older boys don't want to know him anymore after what he has done by ignoring us for the last five years.
I guess in just a few short weeks we will see how this goes. I have already told my aunt that I will not stay if there are is any nastiness and that I can only stay for a few hours.
I hope that I am making the right decision.
Life is too short to give this guy any more of your time. BUT his mom is a different story. You're going for her, and good for you! Beyond "Hi, Happy Birthday", nothing more needs to be said.
ReplyDeleteYou are a strong, giving soul. You'll do good. Plus, you'll undoubtedly come out of the event with stories for your friends... :)
xo
Yes I am sure there will be stories. I have been banned from having any wine while I am there apparently wine makes me mouthy
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