Hand me downs not Crap me downs

I will start this off by saying I am pissed and venting so bear that in mind as you read my blog.

I have a friend who loves to give my youngest hand me down toys and clothes and I am all for that between the economy and the enviroment I think this is a great idea. The problem I have with this person is that lateley most of the stuff he is giving us couldn't even be used for rags. I find it rather disrespectful that he would assume that we are in such need that even the stuff that should be in the trash we will be thankful for.

Now when the stuff is good it is really good but that is rare. My hubby sent this guy a letter asking him to please not give us his garbage just hand me downs for Ethan. His response is that we should be thankful that he gives us anything.

Now I give hand me downs to my friends and I am sure that a stained shirt or pant has slipped into the bag but I have never given clothes that the entire crotch are of the pants is cut out or toys that only have half of the items required. The best thing (sarcastic) was he gave us all the covers and instruction booklets for his kids video games.

After a long heated discussion between my hubby and I a we decided after the response we received to drop off all the garbage to his friend and let him deal with it.

I am sorry but have respect for people when giving them hand me downs. I mean I am very practical and thankful that between the group of us that does this tradition I have had to buy very little for Ethan and 90 percent of what I get is amazing stuff.

Girls night

Well this last Saturday was my first annual girls night. I decided that instead of just inviting the same girls that I hang out with I will invite all of my friends, neighbours, casual friends and of course my heart sister and BFF.

As time approached I was getting nervous about what if this mix of girls does not get along or worse yet what if nobody shows up. Well to my surprise almost everyone I invited showed up some for a long period, some for a short visit and one girl came twice.

It was a night of reforging friendships, creating new bonds and just relaxing with each other. Although we are all in different stages of life and relationships it was wonderful to sit back and watch this girls laughing and talking and hugging each other.

I was talking to one of my neighbours and it amazed me how thankful she was to be included in such a night. She had planned on only staying a few hours but ended up being here most of the night and I think I can honestly say that we are now more than neighbours.

My newest gal pal showed up and wow does she ever fit well with the rest of my girls. I must say I would not think twice about calling her in the middle of the night if I had a crisis. I think she will be a keeper.

It always amazes me the power of a group of women in a room they will either bond immediatley or just be pleasant. I am proud to say that this group definatley bonded and we will be doing this every year.

We even called my cousin who lives far away to include her. She was so excited to be included. This was a night that made memories and one I will treasure for a lifetime.

Friendly moose

My dad is a hunter and this year him and his neighbours have decided to hunt deer. Of course they have seen no deer so far but yesterday a female moose decided to take up the watch with them. They couldn't believe how close she was and she talked away to them and kept them company.I reminded my dad that obviously the moose is very smart and knows that none of them can shoot her and that since the deer were not cooperating she should keep them company.I have known my dad's neighbours for years and as he was telling me this story last night I felt like I was there in the bush with them looking and talking to this moose. You see my dad is an amazing story teller. He was so excited about his experience that he had to call me last night to share this amazing experience.I am so blessed that my dad and I are so close that we call each other for these little things that I am sure seem silly to other people. So yesterday was a perfect day an awesome story from my dad and then an awesome date with my hubby.

Thankful and proud

Well I am day number 6 of being sick but since I decided that on top of rest and medication I would have a postive attitude I have actually been able to get to work everyday and even do some of the day to day stuff at home. This is a big deal for me since normally I get sick and go hide until I get better.

Last night my hubby did the jack o lantern with my youngest one which is a first. If he has done this in the past it is with me bugging him but nope last night he took on this chore all by himself. Since he has switched jobs he is so relaxed and so much more involved in the day to day runnings of our house.

This week there was a slim chance he might get a job far away which would have meant him only being home on weekends. The old him would have announced this possibility with no discussion but instead we talked about why he wanted the job and the things he would miss out on. I was shocked to find out how much he enjoys being part of the day to day. So I guess we all grow and mature.

I am very thankful that he decided to stay put and keep the job in Toronto. I also got my own car this week it is used and very basic but wow what freedom to have my own wheels. I am loving it.

Survived and at work

Well I guess blogging in the wee hours was therapeutic because I woke up this morning feeling almost better and was able to get to work. And yeah for me I am actually busy today which helps so much.

I am trying to balance blogging and life so hopefully in the next few weeks I will find a good balance since I am loving blogging.

So much too say and so little time

I know I have used this title before but it is so appropriate for this blog.

The kids and hubby have been sick for a week and guess what they decided to share and now it is my turn. I should be calling in sick but my boss is not the most understanding so I am unable to sleep since I know how nasty she will be if I need to call in but alas that is how it will most likely be.

Aside from that I went to my Aunt's tonight for her birthday supper I was not sure how this would go since her son and wife were going to be there and we don't always get along but God answered prayers and we had a blast. This is a good turning point my aunt was so excited that we were all together and I as always spoiled her with flowers and cake. To me this is not that big of a deal but she spent the entire night beaming and bragging about both so I guess it is a big deal for her. On the drive home the fog was so thick you could not see in front of you and it is all back roads home so no lights and then all of a sudden out pops a coyote thankfully I was able to stop and he made it across the road safely.

In amazing news my hubby has a new job that will let him be home almost every night and we got a second car. The second car is such a blessing and will make my life so much easier. Now my girlfriends can be chauffered around town for a change. I owe them a lifetime of drives.

I have comitted to my step class once a week to the point where I have booked a sitter for the weeks that my hubby can't be home. This may not be a big deal to most but for me I hate exercise but need it just to stay calm and I love the class so I must say I am proud of myself.

Love - how it really should be

This is some lyrics from a song called It Was by Chely Wright. I had to post them becuase this is exactly how love should be.


It was real...It was magic
It was calm...It was savage
It was cool as a breeze
It was warm to the touch
It was never enough
It was always too much
It did all the things love does
That's how I knew
It was